Setting Goals; The Most Important Step of Self-Motivation

Goals are what we want to achieve in life. Those achievements are partly what build our personalities and make up the basis of our identities. Goals give our lives a purpose, something to aim for and keep working towards, to  eventually reach and gain something from.

So if goals are so great why are so few people using them and even fewer reaching them? Like I talked about in the last post, I think it’s because people are scared of their own potential. “What if I don’t reach the goal?” or even worse “what if I’m capable of reaching it? It’ll force me to do it” these are actually scary thoughts, and they’ve often crossed my mind.Reaching A Goal

The fun part of setting goals is letting your imagination loose and just imagining your deepest desire and deciding to reach it. I want to help you set and reach your goals so here’s a step-by-step guide as to how you can do it:

Get out a piece of paper or open a blank document for you to write your goal on and then proceed to answer these questions.

Goal: What do I want to achieve?

  • This needs to be specific. How much do you want to weigh? What body fat percentage do you want?

What is the deadline?

  • When will you have achieved this goal? Be realistic but don’t be scared to be ambitious

Why: Why do I want to achieve this?

  • As I mentioned in my post about motivation the main thing that drives us is our deep emotional reasons for doing something. If your goal is to gain 10 kg you need to find out why you want this. It could be health benefits but that’s probably not the real underlying reason. The real reason could be that you’re perhaps unconfident and that extra weight will give you confidence. It truly doesn’t matter, as long as the reason is genuine and really means something to you. When doing this don’t be scared to uncover some stuff that troubles you, it’s alright, no one but you will look at this.

Obstacles: What external obstacles can keep me from reaching my goal?

  • Determine what things, outside of your control, can keep you from reaching your goal

What internal obstacles can keep me from reaching my goal?

  • Determine the internal obstacles you have. This could be fear of greatness, lack of motivation etc. Whatever they may be, write them down.

Assistance: Who can help me achieve my goal?

  • Will having a training partner help you achieve your goal? Could a personal coach help you get over any internal obstacles?…

What can help me achieve my goal?

  • Will having the latest GPS watch motivate you to go for a run?

Plan: What will I do to achieve my goal?

  • Visualise your goal and work backwards from there, figuring out the monthly, weekly and daily things you’ll do to reach your goal. When doing this keep in mind the things you’ve written above. In my opinion having a workout program minimises the thinking you’ll have to do in this step.

Do it:

  • Develop habits! Get into the groove of doing what you’ve set out to do.

“You start by saying ‘I’m going to lay this brick as perfectly as a brick can be laid’ and you do that every single day , and soon you have a wall” – Will Smith

In other words; you don’t start by eating perfectly from day one. You progress into a healthier lifestyle and develop a healthy habit of doing whatever you need to do to achieve your goal, and before you know it: you’ve achieved it.

When you’ve set your goal and developed your plan on how to reach it it’s time to:

  1. Commit yourself to doing it! If you haven’t truly committed yourself to your goal in the process of setting it then sit down and review what you wrote and commit yourself. You can also tell your friends and family what your goal is (just the goal not the reasons etc. those are private) so they can hold you accountable. This has worked for me personally and loads of other people but this post explains that some people will not benefit from this.
  2. Start doing it! Take action, take control of your life and achieve what you deserve and desire to do!

Thank you for reading.

Yours truly, The Fitness Motivator

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